Part III: Allow Yourself To Be Angry

In my last venture overseas, our team had a rough few months. In one week, it specifically felt like everything was hitting the fan. Think of a bird on a baseball field. Wrong place. Wrong time. Feathers everywhere, bird no more, and the game needed to be stopped to clean up the mess.

In our team’s specific scenario, no one got a free chicken dinner; we just had to deal with the splattering of feathers everywhere on the field. We had to clean up the mess. To be honest, the majority of the mess that we COULD clean up was with how the situation affected us personally and what we were feeling (or weren’t feeling) about the situation.

When we were lead to talk about how we were feeling and what we were thinking, I think a tendency for most of us was to be quiet, not speak, and to act like we were over it. In reality, I think most of us were frustrated, angry, and disappointed. Yet, we needed to be asked questions and we needed someone to listen for us to pour out what was inside of us.

A wise man said something that has stuck with me. He said that if we don’t process anger, it can lead to depression. This is true. As I’ve thought about it over time and how I process anger in my own life, I’ve seen that anger doesn’t necessarily just go away because I acknowledge it (or don’t). Anger doesn’t even go away when I ask God to change my heart or to take it away. Anger, for me, usually gets dealt with as I process through it. It goes away as I vent and process through pain.

It makes sense, though. Anger is something that arises when something is not right. I typically get angry at injustice or when I have been hurt. Anger within us can be an indicator that something that happened to us or to someone else is not right.

Why are you angry?
Why are you hurt?
Why are you offended?
Why are other people hurt or offended?

I think these questions are helpful, because it gains us ground in getting to the source of why we are feeling the way we are feeling.

It may take a while for us to learn, but emotions are good and important. They help us determine how we are doing – how our soul is doing.

If your soul is not doing well, it’s probably because something affected it. It’s not because you’re a sissy, you need to buck up, or you’re just really sensitive. (Sometimes it is one of those cases, but I think the majority of the time, it’s not).

Thoughts on this are welcome! I just wanted to share my own with you today.

Shalom, friends!

– Morgan

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Part II: Allow yourself to be angry

Yesterday, I posted the blog, “Allow yourself to be angry”, explaining how I’ve seen anger displayed the wrong way through the following:

1. Directing anger toward the wrong person
2. Communicating anger in the wrong way

It’s not a fun experience to see things done the wrong way; however, it gives us an example of what NOT to do, and gives us insight into the right way. We can look at the wrong way, and learn from it and do the opposite!

Therefore, now we know we DO have control over our own selves to exemplify anger in a healthy way by doing the following:

1. Direct it toward the right person.
2. Communicate it in the right way.

Personally, I love this. It brings me a lot of freedom, because I’m not telling myself to hinder anger. I’m not telling myself, “don’t be angry!” I’m telling myself, “Be angry. It’s good and healthy and productive. You’re human and you are allowed to have emotions. You were made this way, and it’s good. Let’s learn how to deal with it in an efficient way in order that we can create something good out of this frustration.”

For those who have stuffed anger since their kindergarten days and are past overdue in expressing it, let’s put a little context behind the anger of emotion. What is it? How do I deal with this bubble of emotion when it feels like there is so much of it that will come out if I open up this can of worms?

For me, it makes sense to look at the only being who ALWAYS is true and right and loving. Jesus.

When did Jesus get angry? How did He show it? To whom did He direct it toward? This is what I have seen from looking at accounts about Jesus written in the Bible.

Jesus showed anger….

1. When people were being oppressed and injustice was occurring
When people sold required sacrifices to poor people at insanely high rates and increased the amount in order that the poor people were suffering even more, even in their attempt to please God – Matthew 21:14-17
2. When people were being religiously ridiculous and making up their own rules
When pious, rules-oriented leaders (the Pharisees) had stubborn hearts and were doubting Jesus – Mark 3:5
3. At his friend, who was in his inner circle, who acted out of zeal but not wisdom
When Peter cut off the guy’s ear – John 18:10-11
When Jesus commanded Peter, “Get behind me satan!” – Matthew 16:23

[Sidenote: I’ve come to the conclusion that the majority of the time, true words from friends are just hard. Case in point from Proverbs.
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
– Proverbs 27:6]

Perhaps there are other important points where Jesus showed anger. Feel free to look them up! I am not thoroughly covering them all, but rather wish to give a brief overview in order that we can see Jesus display His emotions freely and openly, even to the public. He is so good at being THE Example and at being vulnerable to the WHOLE WORLD! Jesus, I LOVE YOU for this! Being vulnerable to one person, let alone to the WHOLE WORLD is not easy!

We can see that Jesus directed his anger toward a certain crowd of people or toward a certain person. He also communicated it CLEARLY. Nobody had to ask Jesus if He was mad. He communicated it to that person or group through His Words (and, in one case, through His actions).

Because Jesus is Just and is the source of Justice in Heaven and on earth, it was displayed in His emotions, words, and actions when He flipped over the table. He is a voice for the voiceless. Those who were being oppressed (the poor people wanting to sacrifice but having no means to buy the increased sacrifices that the mean, pompous guys were selling) are the people Jesus fought for. He literally threw over tables, and yelled at people who were exploiting His loved ones.

Apparently there’s a time for this. When people have no voice, when people are oppressed, when people are exploited – it’s the job of the just and the righteous ones who DO have a voice to cry out and to violently take it by force. Fellow soldiers, allow yourself to be angry. Fight for justice righteously. Righteous anger is a gift from God. Use it.

Lesson #1: Righteous anger is good. It’s Godly. I have a voice to cry out for the voiceless. It is my right and in my God-given authority to fight for justice violently and by force.

Secondly, Jesus was angry at the pious, religious people who stood on the corners, praying only to be heard. They prayed not to get closer to God or to have sweet communication with the Lord; they did it to be seen by men. We don’t have time for this. We are here to bring the Kingdom of Heaven to earth. Thus, we can, like Jesus, correct people bluntly when they instill selfish rules they made up to accommodate their own pride.

Lesson #2: Correct religious people. Jesus did it. Follow only God’s rules – not other pointless rules people make up to accommodate their own made-up standards of their “righteousness”.

Thirdly, Jesus and His disciples were close. They spent three years together. They knew each other well. Yet, Jesus was not scared of a possible breaking of a relationship with His close friend, Peter. This guy was a zealous one – constantly jumping out of the boat to swim to Jesus, to walk (and sink) in the water on the way to Jesus, “fighting” for Jesus by cutting a guy’s ear off. Haha! Oh, Peter.

The Lord rebuked Peter when Peter acted out of zeal without wisdom, when there was only emotion and excitement but not a lot of strategy or thought put into it beforehand. Peter may have had the best intentions in mind, but his heart and actions needed correction; therefore Jesus corrected Him in a blunt and straight forward way. Sometimes we need to be this way with our friends. (Although, to be fair, it depends on people’s personalities. If God has gifted someone to be really tender-hearted and sensitive, honor them and recognize their tender-heartedness as the gift from God that it is. Please, please, please, speak to them how they will best receive correction – which is probably in a really soft, loving, caring wayyou’re your tendency tends to be bold, loud, and straight forward, perhaps practice beforehand, to say it in a way that is loving and exudes your care for them.)

I feel like Jesus was able to be bold and blunt with Peter, because it fit Peter’s personality. However, he dealt with Thomas very differently. When Thomas doubted Him, He didn’t command him, “Believe in me!” He showed up and showed his wounds to Thomas. He related to Thomas in a way that made sense. Some of us are like Thomas. Some of us need Jesus to show up and show us His wounds. (I think that could preach a whole different sermon! Wow – I’m getting revelation just as I think about this!) Some of us need to see the wounds in Jesus’ hands and side and touch them to know that He’s alive and that we can still relate to Him.

Whether you are a Peter, a Thomas, or an I-don’t-fit-in-any-category, I know Jesus can relate to us in a way that makes sense to us. After all, He made us, and He knows best how we operate and think.

In your journey in learning how to deal with anger, I pray that God would you give you wisdom and revelation and insight from Holy Spirit on how to:

1. Direct it toward the right person
2. Communicate it in the right way

What is helpful to me is to remember that the Church is not my enemy. People are not my enemy. God’s enemy is my enemy.

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. – Ephesians 6:12

Lord, help us to be angry like You. Help us to express our anger rightly, direct it toward the right person, and to communicate it well, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

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Allow yourself to be angry

Allow yourself to be angry.

I say “allow” instead of “be” angry or “get” angry, because I think a lot of us already have anger inside of us. I think we just need to allow ourselves to be real about it.

I don’t say this because I deeply see into your soul. I say this, because the world is hard, I don’t understand it, and I’m processing through it myself. It doesn’t make sense that we wouldn’t be angry.

Jesus said to not let the sun go down on your anger. He didn’t say “don’t be angry”. He just wants us to deal with it in the right way.

Why sometimes do we think anger is such a bad thing?

In my experience, I’ve seen people be angry, and THEN I see them sin because of their anger. However, the anger wasn’t the sin. Even the act of expressing their anger wasn’t the sin. The sin was only in the way their anger was communicated.

I’ve seen anger turn into sin in the way it was communicated in two ways:

1. The anger was directed toward the wrong person
2. The anger was communicated in the wrong way

Is throwing something across the room communicating anger? Yes, very obviously and effectively. Is it wrong? Yes, very obviously. We’ve probably all been in this place of dealing with anger. It’s painful. And that’s why we need to deal with it.

If we don’t deal with the pain in our bodies, we get sick. If we have symptoms in our bodies, and we don’t go to a doctor or take care of it, our illness could get worse. It’s the same with our soul or spirit. If we see symptoms, like anger, reoccurring, it’s a sign that somewhere along the way, something was hurtful and we need to take care of it.

“Why deal with anger when it’s painful?”

I can’t give you a theological, Bible-verse wrapped answer. I can just tell you I’ve been angry so many times that I’d have a good salary if it were my day job. I can just tell you that I’ve been through hard seasons – like the one I just came out of, for example, and the one I’m still processing through. I know that if I don’t deal with anger (or other “sick soul symptoms”) it will show. I won’t love others well, my joy is more robbed, and honestly, life is just not as fun. In dealing with anger, a lot of things don’t make sense. The Lord was and, honestly, still is redeeming discouragement and broken expectations.

I’ve heard myself say things like…
Lord, I trusted You.
Lord, I thought You wanted me to do this. I was serving You.
Lord, You don’t make sense. I know You’re good, but I don’t feel like You have good for me.
I don’t understand You, and I don’t get it; and You need to fight for me.
Lord, why?

I say things, and will continue to ask God hard questions and to process these things with Him. Why? Because I don’t know who else has answers or how else to get through life! God is my plan A, and when it doesn’t work, I have to get through it until it does!

This might not seem like something someone “super holy” would say, but let’s be real – life is hard and it doesn’t always make sense! That’s part of being human. We’re going to mess up. Let’s get over failure. It’s happened before. I’ve failed. So what? God still loves me.

Maybe that’s one of the most powerful parts of my testimony I can share.

Hey world! Guess what!? I failed! I didn’t live up to my own expectations! Nothing worked like I planned! And guess what!? I’m still alive! I’m still fine! I am still loved by the Lord, and for the sake of mankind’s integrity – I can be real about it!

So what do I do with my broken expectations? What have I felt like?
Well, to be honest, I’ve felt discouraged. At times, I’ve felt angry.

What did I do to process the anger?

I got mad at God. Sometimes I talked to Him about it. Sometimes I was too mad to talk to Him with an open heart, so I would just remain mad. It is what it is. The Lord is bigger than the boxes we put Him in, and He has been giving me grace to sort through whatever I’m thinking.

And you know what?

The Lord wasn’t mad at me for being mad. The Lord isn’t mad at me for being angry. He’s not ashamed of me. He’s not scared. He’s not backing away. He just stays there and He lets me be angry. He doesn’t tell me anything. He doesn’t tell me I’m doing something wrong. He doesn’t shame me. He doesn’t tell me to stop venting or crying or being mad. He stays silent until I tell Him I’m willing to listen.

And when He spoke to me, He didn’t speak to me about my anger. He spoke to me in a kind way and about what I needed to hear to be encouraged.

With that and for the sake of this not getting too long, I’ll leave this processing here for the moment and encourage you with this.

Let yourself be angry.

When someone hits you in the face, you get mad. Why? Because it hurts and it shakes you up and doesn’t make you feel good. Frankly, they were rude and mean!
When someone punches you in the stomach, you have no problem saying they shouldn’t do that.
When someone punches your heart verbally or emotionally, do you still have a problem saying they were mean and rude and shouldn’t do that?

If someone punches me in the face, I’m going to be mad; but if someone punches me emotionally, I have more trouble validating my anger. Why? I don’t know, and I don’t feel like analyzing it at the moment; but I just know that’s the case. If you’re the same way, then feel free to walk with me through the journey of chasing God and being willing to be chased by God when it doesn’t make sense.

Let yourself be angry.

God isn’t afraid or pushed back by your anger. He created the world and the whole universe rests upon His existence, so one little person venting their anger isn’t going to change His character. You will move His heart, but You won’t change His character.

He is the same yesterday, today, and forever, and no one person in the world will ever change this. He is who He is, and if He ceases to be who He says He is, then His whole case is faulty; so it’s all or nothing. Go big or go home, baby!

If this seems straight forward and raw, it’s because it is. Welcome to my inner world!

I genuinely hope and pray that you’ll be able to process through hard-to-get-through seasons and emotions. I have no doubt the Lord will carry you or I through. I have no idea what it looks like, but I know it’ll be good.

God bless you so much, my friends. I got love for you, and Jesus has more love and capacity for you all! Look forward to more coming on this topic of processing through anger. In the meantime, feel free to pull a Jacob, and wrestle with the Lord. Just be aware, you might come out limping, with a life-long injury of a broken hip with a side of a life blessing!

If you need a minute to process with the Lord with some music, feel free to check out Audrey Aussad – Even In Winter. It’s been helpful to listen to her music this morning as I am processing through this.

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The Brilliance – Brother

“When I look into the face of my enemy, I see my brother…”

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Genre: Worship, Indie, Acoustic

Gentle, smooth and thoughtful simplicity met with beautiful harmonies and excellent production makes this track from The Brilliance a true masterpiece of contemporary worship.

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When I look into the face
Of my enemy
I see my brother
I see my brother

When I look into the face
Of my enemy
I see my brother
I see my brother

Forgiveness is the garment
Of our courage
The power to make the peace
We long to know
Open up our eyes
To see the wounds that bind
All of humankind
May our shutter hearts
Greet the dawn of life
With charity and love

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Processing Disappointment #1

Soon the wise lady leading the afterglow quietly said, “I believe Scripture instructs us to bear one another’s burdens, not analyze them.”

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Several years ago, a good friend took me on a vacation to Algonquin in Canada.  It was a fantastic time of canoeing, portaging, camping and talking.  A memory maker of gargantuan proportions.

Recently another opportunity came up to return there.  I looked forward to it for months and tacked it onto the end of the trip to Canada last weekend.  I went in on Sunday with high expectations and left on Tuesday with my tail between my legs.  What happened is immaterial.  The point of this blog is to explore some facets of dealing with disappointment.

In absolute terms, it was just a vacation that took a weird twist.  Not a big deal.  Just about all of us have one or two of those in a lifetime.  In the immediate, though, it was a huge disappointment.  I was looking forward to engaging with nature, to being on the water in…

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10.2 Discipleship 101: Live Simply – Love Extravagantly.

Discipleship doesn’t have to be so darn complicated!

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Years ago as a new Christian, I thought my personal pilgrimage with God was the essence of Christianity. I used to evaluate my maturity over and over again. “Am I growing, Lord?” I remember when I was memorizing Scripture, eventually memorizing about a thousand verses. “Boy,” I thought, “I must really be mature. I must really be growing. Look at all these verses that I have memorized.” That was how the Bible memory course motivated me: You want to grow in Christ? Memorize his word. But in fact I was growing little. I was still biting my wife’s head off, yelling at my kids, and doing a thousand things that hurt my relationships. I had lots of verses memorized, but few were worked out in my life. John Wimber


So what, exactly, defines a disciple?

Over the years, I’ve always enjoyed asking pastors how they would…

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Pursuing Pleasure (continued…)

Embracing pleasure produces thankfulness.
Not embracing pleasure produces guilt (possibly over a blessing the Good Lord could be trying to give).

When the Ultimate Giver freely gives us a gift or rewards us with something, who are we to say no? Who are we to disagree? Who are we to disagree with the Lord?

Similarly, when the same Good Lord calls us to experience intimacy by joining Him in a place of sorrow, who are we to deny Him? Could this invitation not also be a gift? Though painful, though not pleasurable, could we find glory in embracing Jesus’ invitation – that He would actually trust one that He made to dwell with Him in sorrow?

I’m learning. Perhaps the emotion (whether sorrow, delight, or another) is not as important as the one or the One with whom it is shared. There is something deep within the human soul that resonates in dwelling with one another or with The One in trial (producing steadfastness), in grief (producing an opportunity to be comforted), and in pleasure (producing delight). I believe it’s all a part of communion. Perhaps communion is of dwelling with one another and with the The One. If it is, I believe it’s an art, learned and persuasive.

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Pleasure is good.

Lately there have been repeated themes, one of which is that pleasure is not a bad thing – it’s a good thing. 

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I over complicate things. Let me say – it’s just not necessary to do so! It’s a lot easier to live life simply. 

Yesterday, I was quiet and was in a healthy place of taking care of my soul, and the Lord started speaking to me. He said pleasure is not a bad thing. It’s a good thing. And He also reminded me that I need to embrace suffering when it comes, but I don’t need to pursue suffering.

God told me to seek first the Kingdom … Not to seek first suffering. 

It was nice to be reminded life can be simple. Uncomplicated. Pleasurable. And that its good and right to take pleasure in life, even as a Believer. 

… That we don’t have to mope around casting out demons, interceding with faces to the ground. Sometimes we can rejoice and be joyful and enjoy life. 

The art of communion – drinking the cup and the bread – dying to self, submitting to God, and having a genuine smile on my face – it’s an art. I’m still in the process of being, but to the Artist I’m already a Masterpiece. Ironic how the painting isn’t finished, yet we’re already a most prized possession. 

Just thinking out loud in this one … Reflecting on Ecclesiastes and pleasure … Eat, drink, & be merry, friends! 🍔🍷😍

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Good ideas are really just God-given thoughts.

Good ideas are really just God-given thoughts.

Believers have the mind of Christ.
We think like Christ. We don’t think like Him 100% of the time, but when we think according to the Spirit of God, we think like Christ. *Romans 8

Why not, then, produce the most genius creations, stories, ideas, and cures known and unknown and not yet spoken, written down, or lived?

Why not provoke the Holy, All-knowing Spirit within me to divulge what He already desires and longs to tell me?

He doesn’t want to keep His knowledge a secret. His will doesn’t have to be a mystery. It is to be searched out by princes and found by Royalty, because the Lord’s Royalty is the same as any other in that it’s given through the bloodline.  It’s one that’s been shed in order that everyone who wants in can enter. A free for all, no gimmicks, no entry fee; only sincerity of heart upon public confession.

He doesn’t want to keep good things only for Himself. He is good. He’s defined by goodness. In all of His goodness, He wants to share Himself.

Not only is He good. He is pure in motive and at the same time, all-powerful. He is a King. But one thing separates Him from other Kings. He is full of love. He is a Loving King.

Only a Loving Ruler-King who has all the power in the world would rule the way my God does. Only He would choose to not give Himself the One thing He desires. Only a King full of Love would limit Himself to His greatest desire being dependent upon humans agreeing with what He already knows is true.

To be a King…
To be all powerful…
To have all control…

Why not use these advantages to gain everything wanted?

Why not demand rules for His own happiness?

Why not rule over other people’s desires, especially if His are good, right, and true?

This King is unlike other Kings.This King desires to rule with people who want to rule with Him, not because of power attained, but because of Love sustained.

This King desires to upgrade the people He made in perfection, even after they pierced His side, broke His body, and mocked His name.

Where He could have had human love, He saw a puppet on a string and instead chose freedom for those created.

“Those created”

“Those created”

The ones in the painting when he Himself is the Painter, the Maker, the Creator of the tree branches on which they swing and the clouds upon which they’ve determined to soar above.

The thing He has chosen to not give Himself is the will of man.

The All-Loving King did not make a mandate without free will. He made a date with man, His will for them to be free to love the All-Loving King.

Man has a will to choose to love God. Man has a will to choose to not love God. If man did not have a choice in the matter, it would not be love. It would be democracy, and my God is not a dictator. He is a Servant of All.

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Reflections on Henri Nouwen’s “Can You Drink The Cup?”

(from Chapter 2: The Cup of Sorrow, pages 31-37)


What is communion?
– being together
– common union
– having something another person(s) has/have
– sharing something with one or more people
– agreeing on the same ideas, ways, or thoughts about something
– living together with person(s)

It’s being together with like-minded people who think like you – or like us.

It has something to do with communication – the way I feel, think, react, and respond to other people and the way they feel, think, act, and behave toward me.

It’s a drink and a bread crumb at church. In some churches, it’s a scheduled service event, ‘prepared and taken’ one time a month. Some churches take it together, eating the body as a body and drinking the cup as a body, all at the same time. Other church bodies take it individually, waiting until each person has decided in their heart to go receive.


“To go receive”…


I think this is an obedient act of humility, one in which people willingly choose to partner with the identity of Jesus Christ in His suffering.

And I believe and have just realized that for some saints, self included, choosing to suffer with Jesus is a loving act of obedience, one somberly taken and intentionally chosen. To “take communion” for some is to willingly enter into the suffering of Jesus after having tasted the sweetness of His joy. For others, sorrow and pain have been all too familiar and mourning has become an expression. For these who will receive comfort, “taking communion” may be learning to step into the joy of Jesus. Both enter into Jesus’ emotions, and both can “go receive”.

If part of communion is being together, I would guess there’s mutual understanding that another’s presence is pleasurable.

If the communion I take and eat is the body and the blood, I “go receive” and later sit at the feet of the one broken for me. Pleasure for me, was given through Divine atrocity.

I wonder if Jesus finds His body, the Church, Life-Giving. I wonder what He thinks about our communion. Our communion with Him. Our communion with each other.
Does our communion look like His communion?

When He desires the marriage supper of the Lamb, does He desire something which has never before happened or have we seen glimpses of it on earth?

What does it mean to prepare communion?

What does it look like for each person to personally “take communion” and “to go receive” communion?

Communion represents unity for us and disunity from the Father for Jesus.

Will I suffer with Him and also enter into His joy? Will I embrace the fullness of the communion of the Lord, as He defines it?

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